Divorce Rates on the Rise

Author: Benjamin West, August 20th, 2009

The last five decades have witnessed a steady increase of divorce cases in the US. Couples in the sixties rarely divorced, especially if children were involved. Now in the new millennium many children come from broken homes. High divorce rates may be due to the immaturity of the young people getting married. Another reason could be because a spouse is cheating. Finally, another reason may involve fighting and the stress of everyday life, especially the way the economy is right now. Conversely, the divorce economy is booming.

In the past, people would usually wait until the late twenties or early thirties to get married. Many today are getting married while very young. Getting married once they finish their high schooling or even as they are studying in high school has become most prevalent That is one of many reasons why couples don’t last together. Being in a hurry to grow up, some thought marriage was the way to do it. They found out very soon, within less than a year of being married that was not the truth.

In the society we live in currently most people come from a dysfunctional families. We tend to see our parents not married to each other but divorced, and getting remarried to different partners. There is pain, too, when they see one of their parents being unfaithful. This emboldens them to cheat even after marriage. Also, they may think because they came from a broken home and they turned out alright that if their child comes from a broken home everything will be fine. They act as if they have forgotten what they felt like when their parents split up.

The bad economy of today can cause a lot of strain on a marriage. The stressful life you live could become determinant on the relationship with your spouse. When you and your spouse come home from work after having a stressful day you seem to take the stress out on one another. Money is one of the main causes of marriage separation. Also, people separate because they just are too young to handle the stress of a marriage.

In the past spouses would choose to go to counseling before deciding to permanently separate. Counseling does not find favor with many at present. There is no guarantee that it helps save marriages. But most couples today are not even trying to save the marriage by counseling. Some spouses don’t want to attend counseling, and perhaps this is cultural, attributable to their age, their financial situation or one spouse just really not wanting the relationship to work.

Marriage is not considered as serious as it once was. Couple really need to consider this issue prior to it happening. Anyone in a relationship should not fear the term no. They should not be afraid to explain reasons to wait to their significant other, but it seems as if they are. A lot of people also believe if the female is pregnant, they should get hitched before the baby is born. If the end result of the marriage will be divorce, the child should be spared the grief.

Today people need to wait to get married and need to talk about it more. While it’s helpful to talk with their partner, getting feedback from others as well is helpful. Getting an outside view of the relationship could improve the relationship and also impact the decision of whether to get married. Also, living together for at least a year will help to get used to the concept of marriage. A married couple need to try a few ideas to avoid each other before they make the decision to divorce. For example, separate for a few weeks just to get a break from one another. Try counseling, it may even be beneficial. Children also have to endure the stress of a permanent break-up. Three actions might be able to prevent a breakup or permanent damage to the relationship.

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