Question Are You Getting Married Before You Are really Ready?

Author: Tod Winkle, November 4th, 2009

Isn’t it enough that we love each other and we want to wed and live happily ever after I hear you say? Okay, great, you are in madly in love with each other but are you really prepared to live happily together ever after?

Unless you have discussed the five issues below with each other and have taken on board each others opinions and feelings you are not as far as the experts are concerned ready to make that final commitment.

So why should you talk through the five situations below before you make your final commitments? And what is so critical about them?

Very simply this- one or more of the 5 are usually the major issue in all divorce in America right now.

The experts reckon that if all couples planning to wed talked about the five issues below before marriage the divorce level in the US could be cut by something like 83% and on the rest of the earth by over 60%.

So these are the 5 areas:

Children- do you both want kids? If one of you doesn’t then your marriage is probably doomed from the start! If you each of you want children how do you plan to bring them up?

Belief- meaning religious belief. What do you believe in if anything and how strongly do you believe. If you don’t believe in a supreme being how will you cope with moral issues?

Money- how do you feel about it? Do you like to save are do you just want to spend, spend, spend?

Relations- do you have any strong opinions about each others family?

Sex- how important do you feel sex is as part of a marriage?

The issues detailed above are so vital that if you can’t come to an understanding on all of them it might be better for you each of you that you did not wed each other. Better to move away and find another partner who shares your outlook.

That may sound harsh but remember what we said above- the majority of divorce in the USA is caused by one or more of these issues: Kids, Religion, Money, Family and Sex.

So folks, I entreat you, ponder carefully, discuss the matters above and listen with care to each others answers BEFORE you make that absolute vow to live happily ever after.

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